When I in my late teens and early 20’s I hoped I would settle down with a woman who would complete me. Around the age of 22 I got to wondering if I would ever find that someone. I came to a mental state that if I didn’t, so be it, I would lead the life that God wanted me to lead. One with an eye on God and not worry about whether I find the woman of my dreams and just let God take care of it. About the time I accepted that, I accidentally met my wonderful T.
It was back in ‘96 that I was online in an AOL lesbian chatroom, and getting fed up with the people’s annoying sex talk, that I got an IM from T. asking for help on how to set up her profile. It was this casual conversation that got us started in a regular conversation and getting to know each other. Over the next 4 months we had a whirlwind relationship that involved $200 phone bills, plane tickets and an eventual drive out to her home state we had ourselves an official relationship.
Not all that different from other relationships, the unique part of this one is that she and I have an age difference of 25years. I recall when she told me over the phone how old she is and asked if that was a problem, I considered it but realized that so far I liked her personality and character and I would have liked them whether she was my age or not.
Age was never an issue between us, she acted more my age and I acted more her age in most things so it all equaled out. The only real awkward moments were when people thought we were mother and daughter, in most situations we just let them think what they wanted, things flowed smoother. It also related to her generation where people stayed in the closet and kept those things quiet. I didn’t have too many problems with that, occasionally I would get frustrated, but it would pass.
Over our almost 12 years of ‘marriage’ we have been lucky or blessed to get through life’s difficulties together and come through valuing each others perspective and life experiences, in a way our age difference has been an advantage for us. From day one the way our lives seem to fit together came across to both of us that we were brought together by God.
I don’t know if there is any sense to this but I thought it would be nice to get this all out in writing and let people know that this relationship, this partnership, this marriage is as normal, loving and God inspired by any other.
