Breaking the Mould

I am not a big fan of Dobson, scratch that, I really, really dislike him. My mom listened to him on the radio everyday and my parents still get all his newsletters. I dislike because of his ‘world’s going to end’ rage over gay issues, among others.

I didn’t even know what gays were until I was a teen, and then I only knew that gay men existed and they were B-A-D. Gay women weren’t talked about much, maybe the male fantasy thing or whatever, but I definitely knew gay men existed.

As I came to understand my own feelings toward women, I knew one very important thing, DON’T tell mom and dad. If they think the way Dobson does, then I’m not well off.

Just to give you an example about this Dobson (focus on the family) guy, from Deflating Dobson’s Rhetoric –

Dobson said: “First, when the State sanctions homosexual relationships and gives them its blessing, the younger generation becomes confused about sexual identity and quickly loses its understanding of lifelong commitments, emotional bonding, sexual purity, the role of children in a family, and from a spiritual perspective, the “sanctity” of marriage.”

Bubba responded: More nonsense. Most young people are probably not nearly as preoccupied with this stuff as you seem to be. But those who bother to give it much thought at all (and who are not suffering from heavy religious indoctrination) probably won’t have to strain too many brain cells to figure out that it’s simply a government refraining from sticking its nose where it doesn’t belong, and leaving people alone to make their own choices. If anything, the hysteria reflected in your opening comments suggests you are at least as prone to muddled conclusions on this issue as most young people are likely to be.

I wasn’t confused as a kid from “state blessing”; I wasn’t even around gay people, but I knew that my feelings were different from other girls. However I did know that I had to understand myself and get information from those would not immediately condemn. I wanted ‘just the facts’ and I wanted to see if the rhetoric Dobson spewed was true or not. It wasn’t.

My life with my partner (spouse) will be entering its 12th year (11 year anniversary coming up) and I have to say that our love for only each other and dedication is still strong. We are not swingers, sleeping with animals or wanting to join a polygamist union. Instead we are a boring ‘married’ couple who talk about politics, money, children and our future. How threatening is that??